Beach bums

We went to South Myrtle Beach for six days the last week of May. Just like last year, we decided against renting a house and went the “resort” route instead.

Zeke, Gabriel & Houston adapt quite easily to the resort lifestyle during our family vacation in South Myrtle Beach.

Stephen found a Groupon deal for a place called Springmaid, which is an older resort that has been renovated. The rooms are spacious enough, modern, and clean, and come equipped with all the basic amenities, including a full-size fridge.

But it was the add-ons and friendly staff that made this place so nice. The resort has its own private pier, a miniature golf course, a lazy river, three pools, and lots of optional planned activities for guests. Plus, the hotel’s design offers a beach view for every room.

Admittedly a tad bummed that our vacation is already over, going to the beach in May really is the way to go. The beautiful, vast beach was virtually empty. Other than a couple teenage church retreats, a smattering of young families with kids, and a few senior citizens, I felt like we had the whole Grand Strand to ourselves.

With a couple new beach-shop purchases in tow, the 3 Amigos chill on Springmaid Pier.

This was our first time to Myrtle since the city implemented its no-canopies rule, so we had to buy a beach umbrella and deal with sharing the limited shade it provided. I suppose we could’ve purchased two, but those things are pretty expensive, considering how cheaply they’re made.

It was a bit of a pain, but nothing that a mama insisting on multiple sunscreen reapplications couldn’t handle. Nobody got too burned, and even Daddy the redhead survived. Plus, our lifeguard, who “enforced” the new law, was a pretty easygoing dude.

Houston and Gabriel really came into their own as far as ocean swimming goes. Little salt water was consumed, few tears were shed during wipeouts, and bravery abounded. They absolutely took like fish to water in tackling the “big kahunas.”

Never one to let a little pain hold him back, Gabriel is the bellyflop-master of the resort!

In fact, they were both thrilled to go out as far into the water as Stephen would allow. Luckily for him, this wasn’t too stressful a task, since the waves were just the right size and force for emerging swimmers, and there were many sandbars to help in keeping the kids from getting in over their heads.

Zeke, on the other hand, was quite content playing in the shallow water. It’s this cautious nature that kept him from ever wanting to learn to swing solo until recently. And he told me just yesterday that he doesn’t really like bike riding, so it’ll probably a good year or so till we even attempt to take off his training wheels.

That child definitely marches to the beat of his own drum. No amount of parental or peer pressure will suffice; Zeke will decide to do something when he’s good and darn ready, and not a moment sooner.

Donning his new shades from Mountain Top Youth Camp, Houston is ready to hit the beach & ride some waves!

This is polar opposite of Gabriel, who wants to tackle anything and everything as fast and as brutally as possible, especially if it’s something that Houston already knows how to do. It’s amazing how different these identical twins really are: two unique humans who just happen to share the same DNA.

But what Zeke lacked in ocean adventurism, he had in spades playing miniature golf. Seriously, I think that boy is a natural, everything from his putting style, to his swing and follow-through, to his competitive edge, to his landing the ball in the hole.

In fact, the 18th hole was a challenging shot, but Zeke actually made a hole in one. The teenage boys behind us were astonished by the feat, as were we. Turns out golf might be just the right speed for our zany Zeke.

Zeke, who lost his first tooth earlier during this day @ the beach, aces his first time playing miniature golf.

The 3 Amigos’ pool-swimming abilities have also improved dramatically. Houston is officially swimming, but just needs to practice to build confidence and enhance his skills. Gabriel isn’t too far behind; he can doggy paddle well and will be treading water any day now. Zeke is slowly, but methodically becoming more comfortable in the pool.

But all the boys love doing cannonballs, and Gabriel is even quite proficient at bellyflopping. I do believe this is the summer when they’re going to finally master the art of swimming … well, at least lessen their chances of drowning. Once we tackle that, then I’ll start teaching them strokes and other cool stuff. Aquatics rock!

Houston finally had the greatly anticipated sleepover at his friend Sam’s on 6/5. His mom, Miss Maria, reported that Houston was very well behaved and that the two boys spent a lot of time just reading to one another in Sam’s room. What homeschool geeks!

Houston snaps this shot of his crazy parents smoking cigars during a walk on the pier.

It was Sam’s birthday the following day, so we picked up Houston after the backyard party and trekked immediately to Wilkesboro to meet Granny. Granny had a jam-packed weekend of adventure planned for the 3 Amigos.

On Saturday, they were treated to a single-engine plane ride at JAARS Mountain Week. The mission organization has an aviation wing (pardon the pun), which focuses on traveling the globe to bring translations of the Bible in languages respective to that people group.

Granny said Zeke was a bit hesitant at first (not shocking) and squeezed her hand tight during the ride. But all the boys were thrilled to take a whirl in a plane, especially in such small aircraft.

Daddy & the dudes had fun building this cool fortress of “drip castles.”

Granny also took the kids panning for gold. Although they didn’t find any of the yellow precious metal, the boys did score lots of other pretty stones, like quartz, amethyst, and garnet. Thanks for making some awesome memories for the 3 Amigos, Granny!

Houston’s spring piano recital was on 6/8, and the performance really showcased his love for playing. I don’t ever have to ask Houston to practice anymore. In fact, I usually have to say, “Okay, step away from the piano. It’s time to do (fill in the blank).” What a joy!

We have back off to doing only bimonthly lessons for the summer really to give me a break from the drudgery of running here and running there seemingly constantly. If it were up to Houston, though, he’d probably go to see Miss Julie even more than once a week.

The 3 Amigos goof off after a morning of hard work & training @ the free baseball clinic on 6/23 @ the Grasshoppers’ stadium.

Speaking of breaks, Miss Christie and I are taking a hiatus at co-teaching spelling. Both of our families have been so busy that I fear rushing through the lessons. I want to make sure the boys really nail the fundamentals of spelling and have plenty of time to do dictation, as well.

We just wrapped up Mercy Hill Kids’ Week, which kicked off with a family cookout on 6/16, and then ran from early morning till after lunch for the next three days. The boys, who are always enthralled when learning about Jesus, had a blast, and I certainly enjoyed some free time.

Gabriel and Zeke are taking Creative Movement & Tumbling, which meets weekly for only six weeks. (This was sort of our gift to the twins, since they were too young to attend youth camp with Houston.) Even though Gabe and Zeke are the only boys in the class, they don’t care a whit, and happily roll and boogie at every lesson.

Blessed busyness

“Blessed is the person who is too busy to worry in the daytime & too sleepy to worry at night.” ― Unknown

That pretty much sums up my life since the last post. Here are some of things that have been keeping the clan busily blessed lately.

An excited Houston poses with brothers in front Pilot Mountain, one of the grand views from Mountain Top Youth Camp, where Houston recently spent five days & four nights.

“Old age is no place for sissies.” ― Bette Davis

The brunt of our packed schedule has to do with my going to a chiropractor. This has been a treatment I’ve wanted to try ever since my attempts at physical therapy back in 2012 didn’t bring about the desired results. Sure, I’m not Methuselah old, but it does seem as though my body has aged well beyond its years.

If you recall, I have a bum left hip, a labor-and-delivery injury which has only become exacerbated since Houston’s birth way back in ’07. And because the left side of my body is now shorter than the right, the pain and lacking mobility has just spread in and around that area.

Then earlier this year, I experienced two short episodes of frozen shoulder in my right shoulder, so the manifestations of the original impairment even go beyond my left side, interestingly. This sudden pain was so intense the first time that I nearly fainted … totally freaked out Stephen.

With eye on the ball, & lucky socks & “sliding pants” on, Houston swings his heart out @ his final baseball game for the A’s!

Then a couple months ago, a new, not-so-fun pain seized both sides of my entire lower back. This wasn’t the normal tight, sore, rigid discomfort I was used to; rather, it felt more internal and much more disabling.

In fact, the pain kept me from sleeping in the near-comatose state to which I’m accustomed. I munched on ibuprofen and used a heat pad at night till the mystery pain abated a couple days later.

So, once CC wrapped up in April, I immediately began visiting a chiropractor twice a week for the first three weeks, currently once a week until late June, and then eventually once every 4-6 weeks. Needless to say, this can get fairly complicated when you stay home with three boys.

Luckily, Dr. Darcy doesn’t mind if clients bring their kids to her office. So I’ve been juggling my visits between this option and lunchtime appointments on the one day a week when Stephen works from home (so that I can arrive on time at the pregnancy care center for my volunteer work).

Zeke starts into his trademark home-plate dive. Go, Z!

Now that things are slowing down a bit with Darcy, I’m also going to a PT for dry needling. Sounds scary, I know, but it’s simply the insertion of a thin filament needle (the same kind used in acupuncture) into the “trigger point” of muscle to reduce tension and pain, as well as facilitate and accelerate rehabilitation.

Sure, my calendar is crazy, but the care I’m receiving is such a blessing. Plus, my diagnosis is that my varied physical problems are simply side effects of the original injury. So, treating the source will (eventually) aid in healing all the related maladies. Thank you, Lord!

“The education of a man is never completed until he dies.” ― Robert E. Lee

Just because CC’s done doesn’t mean that we’re still not schooling. In classic Dillingham style, we’re still playing catch up a bit. Only a few more lessons left to fully complete the twins’ kindergarten and Houston’s first-grade curriculums.

Good buddies Gabriel & Jackson chill beside Badin Lake during our camping adventure in the Uwharrie Mountains in late April. Such sweet, big-hearted boys!

But we’re also trying to get ahead, as well. In fact, Miss Christie and I are co-teaching a spelling program. We get together on Mondays for one of us to lead the new lesson, and then our kids do the twice-a-day daily practice at home over the course of the week.

This particular spelling method is pretty time consuming, so I’m pleased that we’ll be getting some of this under our belts this summer. As usual, my crew started out painfully slow (myself included) and a bit hesitantly, but we’ve now gotten into the swing of things.

But more importantly, it’s working. I even heard the 3 Amigos playing a spelling-bee game at bedtime the other night and nailing the words! Imagine the pride felt when a young child masters the spelling of Arkansas or Connecticut or Illinois. Very cool indeed.

Gabriel, Piper & Zeke take a break from pelting huge rocks into Badin Lake … must bust some funky Jagger moves!

“There will come a time when you believe everything is finished. Yet that will be the beginning.” ― Louis L’Amour

The boys finished up baseball a couple weeks ago. The schedule was quite hectic, with two practices and two games every week, but it was well worth the effort.

The 3 Amigos’ skills improved drastically over the course of season. Daddy says Houston got better all-around, but especially at catching consistently. The twins progressed in their throwing abilities, and Zeke improved at stopping grounders and Gabriel at hitting. The season might be over, but the b-ball seed has been firmly planted.

So thanks, Daddy, for taking the boys to every practice and game; for coaching them at home; and for watching MLB games with them to impart knowledge about pop-fly balls, fouls, how to read a strike count, the myriad of ways to get out, and other “inside baseball” stuff!

Despite the chilly water & reported sightings of water moccasins, Daddy, Gabriel & Houston take advantage of Mr. Logan’s kickin’ kayak during our weekend in the Uwharrie Mountains.

The kids also recently finished up Awana, their weekly Bible study which began last August. Gabriel and Zeke memorized about 65 verses of Scripture over the course of the program, and Houston learned 75-plus!

I love that I have my Wednesday evenings back … that is, for a while. Awana was (and is) such an incredible blessing that I will be certain to carve out time on my calendar for the next round. Nothing is more important than the boys continuing to build a solid foundation for knowing Christ.

“To serve is beautiful, but only if it is done with joy & a whole heart & a free mind.” ― Pearl S. Buck

Another thing that is easy to commit to, but sometimes difficult to execute, is my volunteerism at the pregnancy care center. It’s truly a hassle for Stephen to work remotely once a week, so that I can be on-time for the abortion-recovery Bible study. But he does it willingly and lovingly, and I am grateful for that.

Houston proudly displays his hard-earned Awana ribbon w/ his leader, Mr. Jeff, & best friend, Asher. Way to go, big bro!

Twice now I was supposed to be the lead facilitator of the class, and the client was a no-show. I know the study is about her growth, her relationship with God, and her ultimate forgiveness and peace. But honestly, that does bum me out a little.

That’s life, though. I know it will all play out in God’s good time. And when I am fortunate enough to eventually be the facilitator of this incredible Bible study, I know, too, that He will equip me for the task. Jesus keeps me strong and focused, and for that I am so thankful.

“Fun is good.” ― Dr. Seuss

Of course, loving and learning isn’t all about practices, classes, and school. We’ve also had a healthy dose of get-dirty, skinned-knee, gapped-tooth fun lately.

  • Mountain Top Youth Camp: Houston just returned from his first-ever camp experience. The first thing he said when I picked him up was, “I want to live here, Mommy.” ‘Nuff said.
  • Biking with the big boys: Back in mid-April, Houston finally mastered the art of biking sans training wheels. And surprise, surprise, Gabriel quickly followed suit by riding without his training wheels, in the grass last weekend and then on pavement yesterday!
  • Just a swangin’: Zeke, who is always more cautious than his twin, just decided to embrace swinging by himself. And until Zeke decides he is good and darn ready to take the next step with his biking skills, he’ll be content as can be with training wheels. Easy does it, Z.

Zeke’s newfound love of independent swinging also includes jaw-dropping dismounts. Way to go, 3 Amigos, w/ all your new physical skills!

  • Badin Lake: We camped with the J-Crew the last weekend of April. Other than a brief rain during tent set-up, the weather was perfect, there were no bugs, the kids were well-behaved and made lots of campground friends, and the adults got to enjoy some kid-free chill time around the fire.
  • Nearby outings: We’ve recently been to the park with Miss Jessie; to the Science Center with the boys’ CC pals, Grey and John Hunter; to the park with Houston’s CC class and their siblings; and to the home of Alex and Olivia, who are neighbors and CC friends, so that I could make an appointment. Thanks, Rissa!
  • More time with the J-Crew: To pay Miss Christie back for our kid-less trek to see Tom Woods, Stephen and I hosted Asher, Jackson, and Piper for a sleepover last weekend. It actually went amazingly well … other than the boys waking up at 4:30 a.m. Uggh.
  • Lost teeth: Gabriel lost his first tooth on 4/19, and has since lost another. Zeke has a few loose ones, but no visit from the tooth fairy yet.
  • Mother’s Day: Stephen and the kids treated me to a homemade breakfast and subsequent kitchen cleaned-up. Then they took me out to dinner for a feast of Korean cuisine.

Houston & a few dudes from his cabin crew (Parker, Isaiah & Schaffer) devour the last of the pop tarts before leaving MTYC.

Funny Mother’s Day story … I sent Zeke to the bathroom at the restaurant all by himself. First time ever, but I figured it was a small establishment, and we were virtually the only patrons there.

Turns out, the restaurant shares a far-away bathroom with many other businesses in the shopping center. Luckily, Zeke had the smarts to turn around at some point on his journey of long hallways, confusing intersections, and dead-ends, and come back to ask for help. Poor baby.

Funny related story … a couple weeks ago, I was dreaming that somebody was beating a drum. Or knocking on a door. “Hey, maybe I’m not dreaming and there’s someone at my front door,” I thought sleepily.

Turns out, that Zeke, who is always the first to rise, locked himself out of the house in the early morning. It was a nice day, so he said he just quietly sat out front for a few minutes.

Zeke & Gabriel don their achievement ribbons at Awana awards night. Great job, boys!

But once he realized no one was coming to open the door, he didn’t cry or scream or freak out. He just steadily rapped on the door till I awoke. That child might not be a dare devil, but thank God he has some common sense!

Random funny conversation … “When I get to heaven, I want to play chess with Jesus,” Zeke announced. “I bet Jesus will win,” Gabriel quickly responded. “No doubt,” Houston said.

Stephen asked the dudes, how do you say “hello” in Spanish? “Hoo-day!” Zeke answered confidently. Hmmm, we might need to work on the Español a bit more, ya think?! In the meantime, hoo-day is now working well as our replacement for butt and all of its derivatives, as they have been banned due to obnoxious excess and pointless overuse.

The home stretch

As of this coming Tuesday, we’re done with Classical Conversations till September! The 3 Amigos and I are ready to wrap it up, especially since the original end date was in late March.

But because of all the snow days, here we are finishing up CC community in April, right before Easter. It has been a wonderful eight months of educational leaps and bounds by both the boys and their teacher (me)!

Gabriel and Zeke have shown great maturation in their respective classes. Gabe’s weekly presentations have vastly improved, and Zeke’s confidence to offer up answers has increased immensely.

This sassy cattle tries to reach Gabriel’s feed during our horse-drawn wagon ride through Lazy 5 Ranch, which is just north of Charlotte.

Zeke’s CC tutor even calls him a “crackerjack at history,” and Gabe’s tutor probably thinks the same about him. After all, all my boys are little history buffs, and their passion for geography is a close second. Just like their mama, the 3 Amigos are utterly intrigued by maps.

I’m so proud of the twins competently tackling this first year in CC. And am just as overjoyed at Houston’s big-boy handling over his second year in the classical program!

Just like last year, Cycle 2’s memory work was fun and exciting, but often pretty challenging. I mean, the dudes learned approximately 500 pieces of information. It was quite remarkable (as both a mother and home-educator) seeing their capabilities stretch, their capacities deepen, and their knowledge grow. What a blessing!

“Should I feed this guy or save my feed to ward off the obnoxious ostriches at the end of the wagon ride?” Houston ponders.

I’m such a proponent of homeschooling that I’ve been cheering on an increasing number of women at church who want to take the plunge. I even had a two-hour coffee date with a gal named Holly, just so she could pick my brain and I could offer up any helpful suggestions.

I’ve decided I’m unabashedly co-opting Timothy Leary’s 1960s mantra, “Turn on, tune in, drop out.”  The famous hippie “urged people to embrace cultural changes through the use of psychedelics and by detaching themselves from the existing conventions and hierarchies in society.”

Well, home-based educators don’t need LSD to challenge the statist structure of government education or to tweak the norms of cultural conformity. We only a strong will and the grace of God to confront conventional authority, and then get ‘er done. Whatever encouragement I can give to spread the homeschool love, baby!

This critter’s strategy to cozy up Zeke in order to get grub doesn’t quite pan out. Luckily for all the other hungry animals, Zeke warms up to the feeding process once he spots some of his beloved Texas longhorns.

We had a couple CC outings in March. First, we trekked all the way to Lazy 5 Ranch. Visiting this unique drive-through exotic-animal park (which receives no state or federal funding) has been on our must-do list for a few years now, and it was totally worth the long drive south. So cool!

Then we attended “American Voices,” a children’s concert put on by the local symphony.  The kids, especially after having studied some great composers in CC this year, have quite a penchant for fancy music, so they truly appreciated the show.

The performance featured tunes by George Gershwin, Leonard Bernstein, John Williams, and a few other notable homegrown composers. But the conductor also treated the kids to some trivia and a few stage antics, like people in a horse suit trotting out during a Western-themed song. He even took a pie in the face for the kids!

Here’s part of our CC crew @ Lazy 5: (from L to R) Tyrnan, Zeke, Eli, Knox, Briggs, Houston & Gabriel. Good times for sure!

While we’re on the topic of music, let me just say how impressive Houston’s piano playing has gotten. He was struggling with note recognition back in the fall and, thus, getting frustrated with practice. Then Miss Julie recommended a few iPad games to help him build this essential music skill … the strategy that worked brilliantly!

Once Houston became confident in his note reading, his dexterity and proficiency drastically improved, and his overall performance style is more polished and relaxed. Houston truly loves piano now … so much so, that I often have to pull him away from playing just so we can get other things done.

Houston and Stephen were even playing a duet the other night, with son on piano and father on guitar. It was such sweet music to my ears! Our hope is that Houston’s passion for piano will help motivate Stephen’s and my longtime goal of allocating more of our down time at home to playing music as a family.

While at the re-enactment of the Battle of Guilford Courthouse, Gabriel pretends to be a Revolutionary War militia man w/ the help of his friend Eli’s wooden gun and tricorne hat.

The 3 Amigos are all playing baseball this spring. Houston is on a coach-pitch team, whereas Gabriel and Zeke are doing strictly t-ball.

They’re really into learning the many rules of the game, as well as the history of America’s pastime, and Daddy is more than happy to be a booster of their baseball enthusiasm. And just like the ultra-superstitious players in the big league, Houston even where’s the same socks to every game.

Stephen’s birthday was 4/5, and the kids wanted to buy him something with their own money. So, we carefully counted out $5 from each of their piggy banks, and went to Hallmark to shop around for something sentimental, yet affordable.

The result: a nice Tervis tumbler that reads, “Best Daddy Ever.” Yep. Glad my kind boys like showing their deserving daddy some sweetness and love!

Batter up! Zeke prepares to hit for his team, the A’s, during his first baseball game on 3/22.

This past week, Stephen and I road-tripped to Liberty University to attend a lecture by author, historian, Austrian-economics expert, chief architect of The Ron Paul Curriculum, founder of Liberty Classroom, host of a daily podcast, father of six, and all-around nice guy, Tom Woods. But to get to Lynchburg, we had to figure out what to do with our brood.

Luckily, my great friend, Christie, accepted the offer to have all three kids to her house for a sleepover. (Of course, I owe her the same favor with her three kids, which she is eagerly looking forward to cashing in.) Needless to say, Stephen and I enjoyed our “night off.”

But what’s funny is how starkly times have changed for this old married couple. It used to be we’d travel to Phish concerts and then pop in a tape of the band for the trip home. Now we travel to speeches by libertarian thinkers, and listen to podcasts about anarcho-capitalism after “the show.” Life sure is stranger than fiction.

Snapping the obligatory shot with the lecturer, here we are with Dr. Tom Woods: he is to libertarian thought what Trey Anastasio is to rock & roll.

Other March and April happenings:

  • Houston traveled to Virginia for a solo long weekend at Gramsey and Papa’s and got to hang with lots of Richmond family.
  • I got together with the remarkable women from my abortion-recovery class for the first time since we completed the 10-week study back in February 2012. A belated outing, so glad we finally made it happen.
  • We went to see the re-enactment of Battle of Guilford Courthouse, but Granny was in tow for this year’s historical fun.
  • Miss Jessie, who we haven’t seen since her wedding in January, stopped by the house for ice cream, catching up, and a little play time with the boys.

Lastly, if you haven’t donated to the Walk For Life, please consider doing so. Your generosity and support of this incredible, life-affirming ministry would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!